This Husband Shared A Tribute To His Wife – And Revealed The Reality Of Being Married To A Nurse

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Like many nurses, Ashley George sacrifices a lot in order to fulfill her duties to her patients. So she often misses out on time with her family when she’s at work and returns home exhausted following her long shifts. However, it seems that her selfless actions have not gone unnoticed by her husband, Cole.

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Ashley and Cole live in Las Vegas, Nevada, and have four children between them. While she works as a nurse, according to his Facebook page, he is a soldier with the U.S. Space Force. Needless to say then, life is busy for the George family – not least of all for Ashley, who works night shifts as part of her job.

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According to the Medical News Today website, in 2017 there were three million nurses in the United States. And they work alongside a further 700,000 licensed practical nurses, or “LPNs.” Given the nature of the job, nurses can specialize across a number of fields. What’s more, they can work in a number of different settings, ranging from schools and camps to nursing homes and hospitals.

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Becoming a registered nurse, like Ashley, requires two or four years of training, depending on whether the individual undertakes an associate’s or bachelor’s degree. Once they have qualified, however, graduates are usually promised a secure career. And that’s thanks, in part, to the shortage of people choosing to join the profession.

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With that job security, however, comes great responsibility for nurses when taking care of patients. And while the profession is certainly rewarding, it can be a very challenging career as well. As a result, Medical News Today suggests that compassion, resilience and listening skills are helpful characteristics for nurses to possess.

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As part of the job, many nurses are expected to work long hours, sometimes on ten or 12-hour shifts. Some would argue that this shift pattern helps to create more consistent care for patients. However, others claim that demanding hours can add to the stress that nurses feel and perhaps even increase the chances of mistakes occurring.

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Not only do nurses have to dedicate large chunks of time to their profession, but they might also find their job physically demanding. They are often on their feet, walking from room to room and moving patients. As a result, these activities can put a strain on their muscles and joints.

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Furthermore, as part of the job, nurses are often exposed to biological hazards which may include viruses and infected bodily fluids. They also deal with harsh chemicals and exposure to X-ray radiation. Elsewhere, injuries at work are not uncommon and dangers include everything from needle punctures to physical attacks from patients.

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On top of all of this, being a nurse is also psychologically demanding. Given the nature of the job they’ve embarked on, such medical professionals are often driven by a desire to help people. However, being responsible for the health and well-being of others can sometimes be a challenge.

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Seeing people suffering every single day can contribute to feelings of emotional weariness in nurses. And sometimes, people in the profession experience so-called “stress of conscience.” This is categorized by feelings of self-doubt and blame, relating to the well-being of a patient in their care.

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As the husband of a nurse, Cole knew all too well the pressures people face in the profession. Consequently, he did all he could to support Ashley in their family life. For instance, he kept the house clean and the kids happy, so that when his wife finished her shift she had no work to do at home.

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While Ashley slept, Cole completed household tasks as quietly as he could and even prepared a meal for his wife to eat when she awoke from her slumber. He helped the kids with their homework and organized meals. And the dedicated husband did all of this because he appreciated how much his wife did for others.

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What’s more, Cole went public with his appreciation of Ashley and her profession in October 2019. It was then that the proud husband posted a photograph of his seemingly exhausted wife napping on the sofa to his Facebook page. And alongside the picture, he wrote a touching tribute to her and all that she did.

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In the first few lines of Cole’s post, he revealed what it was like for him being wedded to someone with such a demanding job as nursing. He explained, “When you marry a nurse, you marry their job. There are a lot of missed opportunities. Missed events with the kids, missed meals with the family.”

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However, Cole revealed how his family coped with the demands that Ashley faced on account of her career. And ultimately, they had made peace with them as they knew how much nursing meant to her. The father-of-four wrote, “Deep down you accept it, you realize that THIS is their calling. THIS is their passion.”

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With that in mind, Cole stood by Ashley, helping to make his wife’s life easier in any way he could. He revealed, “As my nurse sleeps, I quietly clean the house for her, do the dishes, prepare meals, do laundry, so when she is leaving the house an hour before she has to be at her pre-shift, she has a clean home, clean scrubs and somewhat sane children, and a meal ready to go for her.”

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Ashley worked through the night, while Cole kept up the house alone. However, he made time for his wife each morning when she returned from her shift, no doubt bleary-eyed. The soldier listened to his wife as she offloaded all the things that she’d dealt with in the hours since their last meeting.

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Cole said of Ashley, “She calls me on her way home in the morning, five hours after her shift should have ended, to stay awake. I let her talk, I let her vent, I let her know that she is an amazing mother, nurse, wife. She gives her 100 percent, day in and out. So I do the same. I know it’s not just me sleeping alone. It is also her. So I make sure the bed is made when she comes home.”

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Writing on Facebook, Cole added, “When my nurse gets home she tells me about her night, all the crazy that went into her night. Patients coding, patients getting combative. Sitting with her patients knowing they are dying, making them as comfortable as possible, boxing up those emotions so she does not carry them home.”

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Knowing the emotional toll that Ashley’s job took on her, Cole ensured that neither he nor their children confronted her with problems when she finally walked back through the door. He revealed that the nurse often comes “home to see her children smile and say they love her. Knowing that they are taken care of and not having to worry.”

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Cole realizes that there’s not much he can do to relieve Ashley’s work-related woes. But he insists, “It’s the little things that matter. They all count. In return, I don’t ask her for anything that she can’t give easily.” Instead, he works hard to get things done around the house so that his wife can get some well-earned rest.

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In Cole’s Facebook tribute, he gave his followers an idea of what an average night at work might look like for Ashley. He wrote, “She has done so much for others in her last 16-hour shift. She missed her meal to give meds, her bladder is about to explode, but she does her rounds.”

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The picture that Cole paints of Ashley is one of enormous self-sacrifice. He explained, “She has her nurses go on break so she misses hers,” As a result, he tries to remind his wife to take care of herself. The father-of-four revealed, “She digs in her bag for her ‘trash panda’ snacks. Attached are sticky notes that tell her to have a good night, and that we love her, and to stop eating junk.”

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While Ashley puts the care of her patients above her own needs each night at work, Cole is running the show back at home. He wrote on Facebook, “Meanwhile I’m doing homework with four kids and making dinner and lunches for the next day. All so that she does not have to worry.”

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Elsewhere in Cole’s Facebook tribute, he revealed that – while he does little things to assist his wife – Ashley has her own small rituals to help her through the day. He explained, “Nurses are superstitious in many ways. Mine wears the worst socks only to taunt the nursing gods.”

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Cole continued, “Yet she makes it through each night, talking about her ‘dumpster fires,’ and ‘s*** shows.’ Then, there is the question I ask, ‘What damn socks are you wearing?’ They say ‘Ringmaster of the s*** show.’ I remind her that I’m going to burn them in some ritualistic way to please the nursing gods.”

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Cole chose to sign off his Facebook tribute with some affectionate words of encouragement for his wife. He wrote, “We love our nurse, mom, wife and best friend. Get some rest babe. You don’t have to work tonight and we can make dinner together. I’ll even rub your feet.”

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So Cole’s appreciation of Ashley and her work was clear. However, when he shared their story on Facebook, it became evident that he wasn’t the only person who was proud of his wife and other nurses like her. As a result, his post went viral, clocking up an impressive 6,300 reactions in just a couple of months.

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Furthermore, Cole’s tribute to Ashley attracted a number of comments, many of which praised the nurse for her work. There were also, however, plenty of kind words directed towards the father-of-four himself. And elsewhere, there were many people who saw their own lives reflected in that of the George family.

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Among the recognition that Ashley received, one comment read, “All nurses are special people. Thanks to all of you.” Meanwhile, another person wrote, “A lot of people don’t realize what a nurse goes through on a day-to-day basis. I have the utmost respect for all nurses.” And yet another commenter simply added, “God bless all nurses.”

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There was also a lot of praise for Cole and the things he did to make life easier for Ashley. One such comment directed at the soldier read, “You are a rare breed and a great husband, not all men get this or understand it like you do! Keep up the good work! She truly does appreciate it.”

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Meanwhile, another Facebook user said, “Beautifully written. Sounds like the two of you are a team, as it should be in all marriages. She is amazing in that her job is brutal and so very necessary to us all and you are remarkably unselfish and supportive. I’m sure it’s not a perfect arrangement, but you’re making it work because you love and respect each other.”

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Meanwhile, another person joked, “Ummm, do you have a brother? Lol. You are a rare find. Thank you for supporting her. She needs it. Not many people (non-medical) truly understand how hard it is to get 40 hours in three days with all the chaos and emotions involved. It is very taxing.”

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It seemed that the previous comment may have been written by someone who could relate to Ashley’s profession. And there were plenty more messages from fellow nurses, with whom it appeared that Cole’s tribute had touched a nerve. As such, they had been moved to comment beneath the picture of his wife sleeping.

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One nurse shared her own daily struggles in response to Cole’s post. She wrote, “Yep, that picture is about right… I do manage to take off my scrubs and try to ever so quietly slip into bed so I don’t wake my two-year-old up before I’ve had AT LEAST one hour of sleep. Doesn’t work half of the time.”

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Another touching comment from a nurse read, “Thank you for sharing this! I saw it on a fellow nurse’s shared post. I literally cried! I have never read someone write something so touching about ‘their’ nurse! Being one myself, it hit me deeply. God Bless you and your wife!”

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But it wasn’t just Ashley’s fellow medical professionals who chimed in on Cole’s Facebook post. There were also spouses of nurses who related to everything the dedicated husband had written. As such, they were also able to attest to how hard those who care for the sick really do work.

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Backing up Cole’s account of family life with a nurse, one such husband wrote, “Everything he says is true. I’m fortunate that my wife works days. She works six-to-six. Which means she leaves home at 5:15[a.m.] and gets back anytime from 8:30 to 10:30[p.m.]. How in the hell ya’ll do it is beyond me.”

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However, not all of the attention that Cole’s post received was positive. His claim that Ashley often told him all “about her night” caused some concern that HIPAA regulations had been broken. Short for the “Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act,” HIPAA stipulates how patient information should be protected.

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Nevertheless, Cole refused to let any bad vibes get him down. Adding a caveat to his original status, the soldier said, “I’d like to add that no HIPAA violation [has] been done… So if you are offended by anything that has been written. I urge you to keep scrolling or fill out a hurt feeling report. I will not engage with any negativity. From anyone. Thanks. Have a nice day!”

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